tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2652783816945056301.post9043362057513701946..comments2023-06-22T06:42:55.992-07:00Comments on Jeannie in a bottle: What do people expect?Seahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17608850359975556815noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2652783816945056301.post-60622691100946804072012-02-26T08:41:04.524-08:002012-02-26T08:41:04.524-08:00I am always here for you and know a bit of what yo...I am always here for you and know a bit of what you're going through. When I was in my 20s and working, my mother would inevitably ask how my day was when we were all sat at table eating dinner. Before I could get two words out, though, she was on a rant about HER work. I began thinking to myself, 'Why do you ask if you don't really want to know??'<br /><br />Perhaps those who are expecting you to cope with things right alongside them are, in a very round about way, asking for help because they don't know how to cope. And then they don't stop to think about anything beyond their own coping when you show the slightest inclination to help them and they just unburden themselves to you.<br /><br />I'm not saying it's right; I don't believe it is, but that's how I observe what's going on. Perhaps you should indicate - truthfully or not - that you have decided to speak to a counselor for help in sorting out everything. Even if you aren't, perhaps that will stem the flow of unburdening on you. To be honest, I don't know if it will work, but anything is worth a try.<br /><br />I cannot begin to imagine what you are dealing with right now, but you know I am always here for you. Hopefully after nearly 6 years of being friends, you'll know I do care about you and will listen as often as you need.<br /><br />xBluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09885703166674906033noreply@blogger.com